I would never ask someone in the military if they killed someone. If they did I am pushing horrible memeories at them and if they didn't it still may bring up bad memories from their time in difficult service.

I was sorry to hear that vets "hate" to be randomly thanked for their service. I grew up around the Vietnam war and people treated men in the service like crap and people spit at them and stupid junk. The more wars we've been a part of since the 1990's the more aware I am of how many people have sacrificed to keep me and my family safe. I guess I will have to stop doing that, I sure don't want to embarrass or bother anyone. But how else can I say thanks?

Leslie