It's too bad you feel that way Simcha. I've actually found the opposite: recently I was on a trip with a friend of my sister's who fits the very definition of ADHD. She's a lot of fun to be around, but she would do these things that totally perplexed and angered my sister. It didn't bother me much though, because I understood a bit more where she was coming from. And I could see that- like a lot of ADDers- she wasn't aware of the effects her actions were having. Maybe that view will change after a few years, but right now I feel a bit more compassion.