Yeah, it's one of those things where you know it'll hurt now to feel better later, but hello, it hurts! So that knowledge is small comfort.

I have had my counselor push me on some things when I had been clear that I did not want to be pushed. After each incident, he did apologize and I found that, after a time, I did cool down and forgive him.

I felt like it helped me learn several things:
*I can state my boundaries to others.
*Sometimes people don't respect those boundaries.
*I can be angry with someone who steps past my boundaries.
*I don't have to end a relationship because my boundaries have been crossed.

I find that I am better able to conduct relationships with others, and to weather the storms, thanks to my safer experiences with my counselor.