Down - I must have misread your post in the beginning. I thought you were saying that people should'nt play the "victim" but I believe now that you were actually saying "don't be a victim" (in other words, don't allow the person who victimized you to get to you but forgive them and move on). ((((((((((Down))))))))))

Ahhhh...it's been a rough month (understatement - think Murphy's law)