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Originally Posted by seeker1950
Kewkie, hunny,
I've been to numerous counselors over the years. Some were marginally helpful to me, while others were downright harmful. I realize it's an unpopular thing to say here on PC where many people are devoted to their therapists.
In my long life, however, now at age 57, I am thankful for the little bit of help I gleaned from therapists, but also knowledgeable that I had to do much/most of the work myself. That is what we all must do in the end.
Patty
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1,000% agree. I also hate to say this, especially here, but to be perfectly honest I actually feel that some of the therapists I've seen have "treated" me in a way that made my issues much worse. (Not listening to my request to actually learn HOW to do things, like make new friends and relax,since I've always lacked those skills, being overly concerned with my sex life, rolling their eyes in that "damn, you're a hopeless neurotic" way when I talked about things that were geniuinely bothering me, allowing the other patients in the waiting room to snicker at me when I left in tears, etc.)
I stopped seeing my latest therapist a few months ago after the "rolling the eyes" incident, and have had more insights and progress than I have had in the 1 1/2 years of seeing him, or during the years when I've seen other therapists. So I definitely agree that when it comes down to it, you're doing most of the work yourself.
I'm sorry if I upset anyone with this--but if anyone knows how to find a respectful therapist that will actually challenge me and help me LEARN new things instead of having each session be nothing more than a gripe session, I'm all ears!!
