I just meant that I can't allow myself to try and please as many people as possible. It's a loosing battle. I learned that from a very early age and it drove me crazy at times. I never meant to imply that we should never try to please someone, be gentle or be kind to them when possible.

Hmmm... maybe I have issues with "enabling" and being "a people-pleaser."

Maybe my rebelious side is up today... maybe I'm feeling pushed... I'm sorry. (Or am I?)