"What is Real? asked the Velveteen Rabbit one day.

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

-The Velveteen Rabbit by Marjorie Williams


Internettie,

I loved this. I am so messed up I constantly wonder whether or not I'm real. I don't know what's real and what's not. I'm new on here. I just had to quit therapy because I lost my job and ran out of money/insurance. I had been seeing my therapist twice a week for almost three and a half years. I was nowhere near done. I was glad to find this forum because I've also had some things happen in therapy this year that were really bad for me and confused me. And I've been wondering about therapy because I realized this year that I haven't made any progress in all that time and haven't gotten help with some of the things I really want or need help with. It would have been nice to know about this so I could talked it over with some people. I'm still struggling with all that and my views of and feelings about my therapist and then I have to quit going anyway, so it's really doing a number on me.