Anyway...getting to the point, i've decided i want to get off the meds without speaking to the dr again

NO NO NO!!!!!! Effexor is a specific drug that works in the brain and it's one nasty item to wean from, even WITH a doctor's assistance/monitoring. DO NOT do this on your own
It isn't like stopping aspirin regimen or such, you are messing with brain chemicals. These modern medications are nothing to play with! Please, it's ok to want to stop taking a medication, but you must be adult about it and tell the doctor and ask for help in doing so.
Being psychologically addicted to a drug that is providing relief for you because your own body is not making that needed drug??? I don't think so.

Best wishes