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NuckingFutz · Sep 12, 2008, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by tat2doc

Wish I had the right answer for you but alas, I don't. I reconnected with my old high school sweetheart back in 2000, after maybe 25 years. Even left a wife to be with her. What a disaster. It lasted only 2 years. Then we reconnected again in 2006. Another disaster lasting a year and a half this time.

Since we first met way back when, I thought she was my soul mate, and still do. But over the years, she did her thing and I did mine. Hers being the traditional wife and mother to 4 kids, as well as being a secretary. And me? I pursued the life of a tattoo artist/biker.

Boiled down to her and I just being too different (her opinion), and her not wanting to compromise on our differences (my opinion). In her heart, she said she still loved me but the "lovin feeling" was gone.

Would I recommend reuniting for you? I guess that depends on the current situation for both of you. How does he feel about it? You gotta remember that you separated for a reason. And that reason probably still exists.

Thanks for the feedback, really appreciate it. Think I'll learn from other's experiences and not meet with him. Our coversations started taking on a dark tone...sexual and well, as a child survivor of molestations, coversations involving cameras and sex just make me wanna barf.

I've done enough therapy work to know I don't have to "work" to get someone to love me, just be myself. I think many women have turned themselves into emotional prezels to be with this man and wound up as dried up emotional stale bread.

As tempting and fresh and gentle and easygoing as he use to be, those things are no longer there...perhaps he's been litigating in the courtroom too long, who knows, but I know as much pull as he has on me, he is not for me. I'm a warrior so I can fight that pull.

Wrote him a note that I won't be contacting him anymore. He seems to be happy about that...not a peep out of him.

Thanks for the feedback.

PS: I'm an animal lover and you sure do have one nice sheppard there biker man!