I wish I knew enough people that needed my help-what little I can give being sick myself. It really hurts my feelings when I try to be helpful&am rebuffed. I think that everyone feels the need to be needed sometimes. Just try to make sure that you're taking care of yourself first. You can't be truly helpful if you're not doing well yourself. Don't let yourself be used by people either. Sometimes people will dump on you&never return the favor. That's not OK. I know what you mean by feeling abandoned. I've been there for several people that I used to call friends&when I needed some help, they never reciprocated or said something hurtful when I sought their help or shoulder to cry on. Try to learn to take care of yourself-you may be the only person who will help you. Unfortunately that's the way many people are-especially those who aren't mentally ill. They take your help readily&never reciprocate or avoid you completely. It hurts! You're not alone! 
Quote:
Originally Posted by selfy
is it possible to need to be needed by people?
like, if someone is having issues,id spend all my energy on them, and then when they get better i feel abandoned, and idk. i dont want any of my friends to stay stuck in a rut. but i dont know how to stop feeling like im unwanted and uneeded after peoples lives get better some. i cant just sit around and enjoy my teenage life, i have to get out and help eveyrone out and do it to the best of my ability. or im useless and pathetic and horrible. i cant cope with not being able to help. but if there is noone who im friends with who needs it, yes im happy for them, but i miss being needed.
its especially bad when someonegets better because of someone else... an i just feel like. well i ducked that up. they wont wanna no me anymore because ive done all that needs doing and they have (insert person here)
dont even know wether this makes sense to anyone. but im sick of it. i want to be able to accept that its ok to enjoy my life and live for me, rather than tryingto fix everything. and if i cant or if it gets fixed, i feel abandoned and useless.
anyone get it?
 |
__________________
I am a 39 year old female that is diagnosed with bipolar disorder,anxiety disorder and post traumatic stress syndome. I'm on disability and often have no one to talk to when I'm not feeling so good. So please contact me if you'd like to talk or share or vent. I'm listening!
|