Selfy,

You are an amazing person! one of the best one can meet.
I can't talk about school and how you were treated, because that was my past also.
I understand.

You have helped me with that anxiety attack I had when my friend was in the e.r. for slicing open his finger, remember?
You taught me so much that day about how grounding techniques really do work when we utilize them. You also took me to support to be away from the crowd that day.
I haven't forgotten that! You are one of my heros.

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About being needed, you might find a book by Melody Beattie helpful.
She writes 'Co-Dependent No More' and 'Beyond Co-dependency' about caretakers who become co-dependent of others, and really have a need to feel needed by another specific person, or others in general.

If you read the information, you might see info for yourself you can use or you might not. But you will know what to do, or how to overcome codependency IF it is a problem for you.

Almost everything is good in balance, right?

I used to run CODA groups, lol, so I know a little about it from my own experience.
I could not say 'no' and other things, but the bottom line I featured was that I became a little bit resentful that the others I cared about didn't do anything for me like I did for them.

No birthday cards and presents, no baby-sitting, no money help, no favors, no helping out in problems, no kindness to my child, the list goes on ... while I did all those things for them. See what I mean?

Anyway, there are different paths to care-taking, and assisting others. Some paths require the desire to help others especially.

When we question the intention, or the outcome, of what our actions bring, we gain insights for ourself. Just some thoughts.

Peace and Gratitude Always,
Night