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Sep 13, 2008, 11:39 AM
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((((Earthmama)))),
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I hope in the future you will be able to discuss your feelings and not just state them and ignore the gorilla in the room.
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I think we ALL can clearly tell from Earthmama's post that she did state her feelings to her T, or told him what she felt she needed, all WHILE she was coloring on the floor with the gorilla. EM does not appear to be the kind of person to ignore anyone, especially a gorilla that is coloring Mandala by her side.
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That's not what the T is there for.
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The therapeutical relationship involves the T and the client. It is those two people who decide the goals, decide the purpose of the T. If every session consisted of avoiding topics that were uncomfortable, I suspect that not much would be accomplished although I won't make that blanket statement for everyone. However, one session of not talking about in-depth issues, one session of having the 'safe base' in close proximity so one can regain a sense of safety can be very therapeutical in my experience.
In this case, I think the T was picking the bugs out of the gorilla's hair. That HAD to have made the gorilla feel better, how much more therapeutical can you get?
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I support his trying to have a therapeutic time with you, but am sorry that it didn't work out. That isn't what you wanted, as you said.
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I'm sure EM's T appreciates your endorsement. Earthmama, you really didn't want to have a therapeutic time with T? Are you getting attached to the gorilla again? Sigh. Haven't we spoken about this?
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