I've been with my partner for about 7 months now. He moved in after just a month, but we get on so well and just cant bear to be without each other. This is something we both want to make work....long-term. We both talk about marriage (even though we say this will not happen until at least a year together). We are both in our late 30's and both have a mature attitude towards our relationship.

At the moment we are both under so much stress it is putting a strain on our relationship, and even our sex life. We leave home at 6.00am (awake from 5am) every day to catch a train and then bus to work. Then i dont get home until 7.30pm at night. By the time i make dinner and sit down for a rest its time to go to bed. We are looking for someone to move closer to work, but its taking time to find. My boyfriend is doing an IT course as well as working full-time and the long hours has put a strain on him also. I had Chronic Fatigue about 10 years ago and even now find myself tiring very quickly.

I am overweight, but cant find an extra moment in my day to fit exercise in (though i go for a walk at lunch-time many times). I am desperate to get back to the gym, and I know this will all work out when we move close to work, but at the moment it is putting such a stress on our relationship. My partner gets so upset when i dont feel like sex, and he wants it almost every waking minute of the day. I come home from work exhausted and it is the last thing i want. I feel so guilty and I know it is hurting him so much not to make love but once a week, but i dont know what to do. We fight about it so often. I know he's trying to be understanding, but i know he feels like i'm rejecting him. I want to make love as much as he does, but i cant help how exhausted i am all the time right now.

I dont know what to do between now and when we move.