I never did find anything to help me relax in therapy (other than drinking beforehand). Talking is torture and in some cases absolutely not possible for me. I can write about certain things, but not talk.

I don't think I know how to relax and think it's impossible for my body not to be tense. However, one thing that has helped me tremendously is yoga. Actually my class is a fusion of yoga + pilates. It is one of the only things I find comforting. It provides mental and physical release. Afterwards my body feels like its had a spiritual and muscular massage (but without the ickiness of being touched, I hate people touching me, touching animals is okay though). One girl in my class was able to get off her anti-depressants, yoga helped that much. Animals are another great relaxer. And some kind of art or craft class would be great and feel very therapeutic. I find exercise helps with getting the anger out, but I haven't really found anything to get the sadness out. If I were more artistically talented, I bet some form of art would help with that. Art is very therapeutic.