The last thing I want to do is move on. I've put 6 years into this relationship and now everything is just falling apart. I tryed to be as emotionally supporting as possible, but he says our current arragement just makes him feel guilty for not being there for me. Any advice on how to handle this?[/QUOTE]

I don't know anything about your situation other than what you've said here, but I do know men sometimes need to figure things out on their own. I'm not a big fan of therapy, I've had some good experiences but not with couples counseling. I'm not a fan of meds either. That doesn't mean their is no hope. You sound like you really love him and want this to work. I think, the best thing you can do now is to say something like you know he needs to figure things out on his own, and he needs you give him space to do that. Tell him you respect that ("women want to be cherished, men want to be respected" I read that somewhere) and you'll be there when he's ready. But not to take too long because you don't want to be left hanging. Hopefully all he needs is a little space and the permission from you to have it. Like I said, I don't know what his issue is, so I hope this helps a little. Having a good attitude about it helps. I also read "what one person represses, the other expresses" that as a couple we become like a glass of water with a separation down the middle with enough room at the bottom for water to flow from side to side. When one person is repressing their feelings, it's like he's pushing down his side of the water and it makes yours (feelings) rise up to the top.

Dr. Stosny has a blog on Psychology Today. You can google it. He's been on Oprah and he teaches compassion in relationships. He's not one of those break up and move on type of T's when the going gets tough.

Best wishes!!