Hi this is Jims wife, just to elaborate, there is more to his story than he explains, jim also has a serious disorder that he has had since a boy..this thing wont let me elaborate...but he downplays things as usual, its part of his disorder...its not the fact that he stares its what he is thinking when he does it. i cant say because everytime i try to elaborate and i hit submit i get this error message saying due to the content it cannot be submited if you want to email i can elaborate on it...... xxxkoolkatzxxx@aol.com <font color="blue"> </font>