You have really gone out of your way to help her . You done more for her then most people ever do for someone with bipolar 10x more maybe up to 100x. If all friends and family menbers did as much as you more of us would get better soon if at all .Most times you find that friends and family will turn their back to you people scared of what they dont understand . If she is not ready to go on vacation with all the work you two have done ill will be shocked if anything you deserve a vacation and a good pat on the back .Nice job!