I don't have time to reply, by my quick initial response is that yes, she betrayed her husband by coming here and posting under his name! I assume it was done without his knowledge or approval. That is unacceptable of her, in my opinion. In support of you, I think you did at the time what you thought was right. Your heart is in the right place. You probably haven't contributed as much as you might think. It also could be that the person's wife could be looking for support herself, by way of doing what she did. Talk later!