Jon and I are both in AA (that's where we met). He's been doing really well and I'm very proud of him. After our meeting last night, I got a surprise visit from Jonny. He told me that Jon and Jonathan were talking about "big boy stuff" in private, so he came to hang out with me. Very cool. Time passed and Jonny said "Oh, they're done. Here comes Jonathan. See you later!"

Jonathan was in a state. He was really upset, crying. He told me that Jon's six months sober really are six months - he (Jonathan) hasn't done anything behind our backs. But it's getting harder. He REALLY wants to drink. He hasn't been to any of these meetings that Jon and I go to and he doesn't understand how Jon got so happy and peaceful. Basically, Jon's been doing that 12-step stuff and Jonathan has just been white-knuckling it.

We talked some more, and I started explaining a little bit about what we've been doing. I don't know if I ought to be his sponsor (I don't think so), but I can help him get through stuff if he wants to. He said he wanted to. He just can't do it at the same time Jon's doing it, or else neither of them will get anything out of it. He said he has to do it himself, and he asked me if I would take him to a meeting.

I'm just a little confused...could an alter need their own recovery/therapy? I guess he could. I know that he's known what Jon is doing. I suppose I just thought...(they) he was more involved. I'm not doubting any of it! I'm just trying to wrap my head around two of them working separate recovery programs. If that's even a good idea...I'm just confused. I want everybody to get better.

Thank goodness Jonny never drank!