it sounds like that old saying about the 7 yr itch. marriage is really hard work to keep it alive. I know my husband and I have gone thru this similar to you. I can tell you we have both started working very hard to become friends again and start laughing again. all our life together we have had other people living in our home. now that we are alone we don't now how to behave around just us. keep working at it. I am sure you will find that love again. we have found that we really really enjoy sitting on our front porch with a little fire in the little pit we bought. it gets us away from the tv and computers and we are finding that we can actually talk again. keep trying hon.