Could you ask her what she meant? Or ask her about the story? Or maybe even say "Hey, if I get too wrapped up in my stuff, could you let me know?"

I hate asking people things like that, but it's the only way for me to be sure what's going on. Most of the time, it turns out that I'm OK, and the other times, we get a chance to talk about whatever I'm not seeing.

I'm glad you've got a friend who can accept you! that's very, very cool.