Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Laugh, laugh, laugh, laugh laugh. THE most important things you can do together. Everything else will fall in place, but it is work. Anything worth having is. If you were in an orchard and wanted an apple, you could walk around and find one laying on the ground. It might even be shiney and round. But bite into it and it's full of bruises and worm holes. Look at the top of the tree, though and you'll find the one that is just right for you--but you have to work for it! Good for you for recognizing that you have these feelings before acting on them!