Absolutely right Danialla! I agree.

In my opinion, many heterosexual people do not fully grasp the importance of “coming out of the closet”. They say that what a person does in bed behind closed doors is nobody’s business and I whole heartedly agree with this statement ( as long as nobody is getting hurt).

But I think that often they miss a much larger picture…being in a homosexual relationship is not just about what gender I “choose” to have sex with. It’s about a loving caring relationship and all the things that go along with that just like a heterosexual relationship is.

If I am in the closet, I can never talk about the person I love. I can never have them join in my family celebrations on holidays. I can never introduce them to my friends as being my significant other. If I am in the closet I can’t share large parts of my life with the person I care most about in this world!

Does any straight person know how bad that hurts? Think how many times you say things to family, friends, co-workers like “my boyfriend and I” or “my wife and I”. Imagine going through life hiding the person you love from others eyes like it is something wrong or dirty! It’s not and it stinks and it hurts.

I am not trying in any way to encourage or discourage you to come out. That’s a choice you need to make when and how you feel is best. I guess I am just saying I understand why you feel it’s important and also why you are reluctant.

I hope your friends and family love and accept you just as you are. You sound like a wonderful young man.