Why wait. If you are not happy with him now what makes you think you will be happy in 10 years .Lots of people make this mistake and over time end up hating the other person for all the wasted years and if you think you kids cant tell guess again. What are you teaching them that being married means being unhappy you are setting them up to fail i their relationships .Whats better for them ? You and your husband happy a part or unhappy together .