My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for close to a year, and by most measures it is a wonderful and serious relationship.

However, he has some serious sexual desire issues. He dislikes kissing ("wet and uncomfortable"), has difficulty with sex, and before we started dating, had not had sex for a number of years.

It came as quite a shock to me given that he is good looking and athletic (former state-level youth sporting champion) - shouldn't have testorone problems there? He has been a smoker for almost 20 years, which might be one explanation.

He often gets agitated when I raise the issue, but recently agreed to "consider" counseling or therapy.

Can anyone advise me on how I can resolve this prickly issue in an otherwise wonderful relationship?

Much appreciate any help, particularly from the medical field.