I have posted previous posts about the relationship between my fiancee' and I. Needless to say, things are not going well, but at least I know why.

Not only is my significant other EXTREMELY stubborn and proud, but he suffers from depression.......apparently his whole life. Although I am saddened by the fact we may not have a future as husband and wife, (but I hope friends), I somewhat feel I may be a catalyst to his recovery. I told him I love him, and I have faith in him, and he needs to love and have faith in himself......but he feels that somehow "happiness" may not exist. The whole thing really, really makes me feel so bad, I had no idea how bad it was, until he spilled his guts this evening.... he has chose to live his life in the past, the misery of two failed marriages, along with the bitterness, and heartache. He cannot live in the HERE and NOW, which is, where I am. It has all been so destructive, that he has been driven to escapism with alcohol....although it could be worse than that, he is not a drop dead drunk. If nothing comes from this, I just want him to finally find himself, and live a healthy and happy life. He does deserve it. How can I though, get him, or even make him think of the idea of therapy? I know, as he should, he needs to do this himself, and only FOR himself, but someone as stubborn and proud needs to have the shell cracked so to speak. Maybe all I can do is do what I have done. Am I right thinking that he needs therapy? Possibly medication? He is on xanex now, but he only takes them to sleep, fearing they may make him sleepy during the day. I love this man. If I am only to be just a friend, I hope that I can help him in some way.