Rapunzel... thank you so much for the info, I was hoping someone would have some firsthand knowledge about it

I've done just what you've said.... I treat her as much the same as I did before... I've always been gentle with her, but when she pushes the wrong buttons, she get's the "real" me... no games.

I seem to understand her better than anyone else right now when she talks and I keep in mind it's difficult and I hate to ask her to repeat because I know it frustrates her, but I want her to know, in my responses to her, that she's not getting "baby" treatment, she wouldn't like that, so I'm straightforward just as, or more, than I've always been.

We had the living will discussion. My mom wasn't able to handle it, but gramma could. She said "I'm not afraid to die, but I want to live."

I'm keeping in mind that she's in a fragile condition and it ain't over... she could be struck again at any moment....

This is actually her fpurth attack in the last eight months. Thanksgiving last year was the first, and it was serious... since then, she's had two minor (I guess they call them TIA's, but I don't know what it stands for), and then this one....

We're all just hoping and praying......

Hey hey, Heidu, thank you both

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius