Dear Jannie,

As a man, I expect, to be at the service of my woman, any hour of the day or night. To please her sexually, in any way she wants, and all ways she wants, for as long as she wants, and as often as she wants. It is an honor, a duty and a great pleasure.

I realize, at times, a man may have a sexual disability, e.g., an erectile dysfunction, and may not be able to engage in coitus. However, he would have to be severely disabled, not to be able to bring his woman to repeated orgasms, in some fashion.

However, what you describe, is nothing less than premeditated sexual abuse, as well as emotional abuse. I believe, this guy is trying to control you, subjugate you, by undermining your self-esteem. Please, unload this guy, kick him to the curb. You don't want him in your life; you deserve, better. You deserve a man, who will admire you, respect you, and cater to your wants and needs, to the best of his ability

I wish you the best,

Larry