hey Fried,

Here's link to a web group that fits: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/12-step-free/
a few more to get perspective and try to skip all the crap out there:

(NOT 12-step)
http://www.sossobriety.org/fastindex.htm
http://alcoholism.about.com/od/non/
http://www.womenforsobriety.org/ (ya I know you don't need this one) lol
http://www.secularsobriety.org/
http://www.cfiwest.org/sos/links.htm
http://www.aadeprogramming.com/recla...ctiveness.html

Take care and good luck my friend.

~Down