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eskielover · Sep 22, 2008, 12:59 PM

(((((((((EJ))))))))))))),

I find hospitals to be so much less than we expect from them. It is sad & I know I felt like I was fighting the system when my Mother was dying 4 years ago. Where they choose to put a patient doesn't make any sense.....but it seems they base in on the current problem.....not the main problem that the person has.

First off if someone is having heart failure, they should be in ICU on a heart monitor & round the clock monitoring....not the orthopedic wing what doesn't have the capability of that type of monitoring. Bad choices on the hospitals part.

The sad part is when we end up advocating for our parent, then we become the bad person, the person who is being pushy & just a nuisance to how things work. Don't ask questions, don't rock the boat.....that is all hospitals know.

The issue with the pain med, I think you might have hit on it however....in the middle of heart failure & narcotic pain meds that slow down the heart even more could be considered the combination to kill the person, so they choose to leave the pain rather than give a medication that might mean a law suit by some families.

I hold a lot of anger at the way my Mother was treated everytime she was in the hospital dealing with her cancer........I could write pages on how bad it was & how cruel they were including the arrogans jerk of a doctor that my mother thought the world of (& she shouldn't have as he was a looser) Sadly, I can draw a correlation from what happened directly to the way the Dr & hospital handled my Mother. When I requested that they make sure I be there when they talked to my Mom, they ignored all my requests....because my Mother didn't insist on it. She thought they would just do it because it was the right thing to do.....they don't give a dang......just do their job & ignore what is good for the patient. Then the BS about how the social workers write down all the right words in their notes....yea, they put things down in writing & then never follow through on anything.....so nothing right happens either........oh yes......a very sore subject with me.....& we are trapped with their arrogant incompetence.

Sadly, there aren't any options that are better & most other countries are worse than ours......how scarry.

I think how my Mother was treated & I was there to look out for her.....how am I going to be treated when all alone???? It's scarry to even think about.

I wish I had positive things to say about our hospital system....but my experiences aren't any better than what your family is going through.

My heart goes out to your frustration & anger.....it is definitely well founded however....just don't know how to change such a huge mis-manages system.

Debbie