I don't like the boo hoo hoo approach either. I've had one T act as if I was the saddest case that walked into her office while we were going over family history. It gave me the sense that she didn't have enough experience, in reality, she probably thought it would make me feel better. You need understanding & empathy not pity. Someone who sees you in a good light and has a vision for you, not just focusing on the problems but finding solutions also. Someone you feel comfortable with.

As far as saying you had a homosexual experience, I don't know if I would call it that. I understand what you are saying, but have you tried looking at it a different way? I think someone else had a homosexual experience with you, to your dismay. You didn't consent to it, you couldn't even know what you were consenting to if you tried. I'm sorry someone took advantage of you. I don't care if they were 5 or 55. When we are taken advantage of, it's not the same thing in my book. Now whatever you choose in your adult life, is up to you. Taking back your power and reclaiming your history to reflect who you are is important.

I had an ex boyfriend who experienced the same type of thing, I never thought he had a homosexual experience as much as I just thought some other guy was a jerk to him. I was glad my boyfriend could relate to my feelings more, he was much more sensitive to me and I loved him for that.