Hi Vette.

You've been quite helpful, so I think I should be able to pay back a favor.

Stuff like that is going to hurt and maybe make you do things that you shouldn't do in hindsight. The way you see your ex-girlfriend really does remind me of the way I see the girl that I had to say good-bye to, to save my marriage. She told me that when I told her that I can't be with her anymore that she cried in the office. It was in the early morning so no one saw her. It still hurts. Admittedly, I feel jealous right now, but it's still the process of letting go. But I have no choice in the matter.

I think men are more emotional then women give us credit for, or at least remorseful....well, not all men, some of us are just clear bastards.

So anyway, I have so suggestions to offer along with everyone else. If you want a friend to talk to, just approach someone, right off the street, or phone up someone who was in your graduating class. If it is just sex that you're after then don't be afraid to date or go on a series of one night stands, just to get that out of your system. Or if it's a feeling of community, try establishing, re-establishing, visiting or re-visiting a/your church community. They're filled with people who are genuinely interested in your well being as well as your spiritual being.

Wow...that's long winded. :-) Sorry about that.