MJ, thanks for helping me clarify my dilema. Herein is where it lies:

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I like very much the first paragraph that talks about having the humility to consider the opinions of others, and to be open to new knowledge.

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I try very much to be open to the opinions of others and give them their due consideration, especially when I feel that I've been critizised. If there is any room for improvement in me, I want to know about it.

But then, my inner voice tells me:

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At the core of humility is the practice of never putting yourself above others.

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I feel as if I do this quite a bit. Not here, but in 3D. I'm too quick to call someone "stupid" or an "idiot" or on "obliviot." It's a combination of oblivious and idiot. Cognitively, I don't put myself above others, but the fact that I call them names tells me that's what I think.

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... single-mindedness [is] necessary condition[s] to being a truly successful activist...because without that belief that your position is the only one that is remotely defensible, it can be almost impossible to overcome the hurdles that the opposition puts in your way.

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I'm not an "activist" as such, but I do feel that I have something important to say and I want others to hear me and understand. My poor husband has to deal with me always preaching to him to "have the courage of your convictions!" I don't think he does. He seems to sway with the breeze. Like a poster said in one of my English classes: "Stand for something or fall for anything." That hit my right in the heart! I made that statement mine from that day on. What do I believe? Who am I and what do I stand for? When I figured it out, I cemented my feet in my belief. I know what I know! But then, I'm the first to admit that I still don't know myself that well.

There sits Tomi on the horns of her dilema!