(((Pachy)))

Your post strikes a chord with me. Forgive the long post.

I have a lot of mixed feelings about the current state of therapy. It is realistically speaking a young field, and as such we don't have the level of scientific proof that we have in other areas. The only thing therapy studies consistently show is that the therapeutic relationship is the most important factor.

I have had a good experience so far with my T, and for that I am grateful. IMHO, the things that have helped me the most is that he does just listen, and is willing to really *be* with me through my own process of healing. He said his job is to witness, not to tell me what to think.

I believe each of us holds the knowledge we need for our own healing, and that therapy, in its ideal state, would support us in finding that safe place. I also believe in the idea of being cured/healed.

Since I started the process of therapy, I've inhaled all sorts of information so that I that might understand HOW therapy works. My scientific brain was not going to accept that just talking about 'anything' would work.

I appreciate your systems analogy. Go with you ideas -- I think your concept is good. The brain *is* a system.

Have you done any reading on mirror neurons?
IMHO, the most exciting brain research right now is all about mirror neurons. Our brains *do* change based on interactions that we have with other people. Similar changes can also be created through mindfulness meditation. Our brains have the ability to re-make themselves in 90 days given the proper input (aerobic activity, mindfulness, good nutrition).

I've posted about him before, but Dr. Daniel Siegel has written some fascinating books about how this all works, and his own experiences with mindfulness. He also has done a lot of research in attachment theory, and later ties that into the mirror neurons.

His most accessible book is "The Mindful Brain." It makes sense from a scientific point of view and it gives hope about affecting real change and healing later in life. I could go on and on...feel free to PM or ask any questions.

You are a smart person, Pachy, and I think you should listen to yourself.