im not a psych anything (except client). but i think your psychiatrist was a jerk. his dismissive attitude was totally lacking in empathy. abuse is or isn't - it is like being pregnant, you can't be a little pregnant.

your life since this happened is the proof. the difficulties, bad memories, psychological discomfort, physical discomfort, pain...

the psychiatrist you went to was a technician, NOT a healer. Pills and a few questions don't make him worth much as far as real healing goes.

ultimately you must choose for yourself - to believe yourself, not the pseudo-expert.

bottom line - are these feelings/memories etc. what YOU would choose for your life....I didn't think so. i believe you were abused.