Krazibean,

I would definitely give it to her. I understand not wanting to be too critical (since you've already "complained" about her calling), and that logic might apply to outside of therapy relationships, but I think the point of therapy is to be attuned to and to discuss all of the little feelings/perceptions that come up for you, not to skip over them so as not to be a bother or something. You wrote it in a super-respectful way, and so she should be able to interpret it as you trying to tell her about your reactions to things (not get defensive and make it about her).

As for the content itself, I sometimes jump to conclusions about what the other person (like T) is thinking. And sometimes, maybe because of past experiences, I'm quick to assume the other person is having a negative reaction. But sometimes it's more about my expectations than what is actually happening. If you think there is the slightest chance that that is what happening with you here, isn't it worth it to bring up the topic and get a chance to explore what she actually was feeling and compare it to what you thought? I think it would be. That's my two cents. Good luck!