In fact, it's been said that we see ourselves more clearly than others can, but that is no skill, no victory. Seeing things "clearly" comes at the price of the lack of a psychological immune system... the system that is supposed to cloud our memories of our failures, remind of us of our successes, and give us the will to keep going and to believe we can, even in the face of stacks of contradictory evidence.

sorry, I'm tired, I'm not even making sense to myself... please forgive my babble