Hi Sunrise, I think that it is good to get our irrationalness outside of us so that we can see it and untangle it. I don't think positive and negative reinforcement is just for dogs! I think that we all need feedback on our behavior all the time. If we aren't being nice people have the right to back away from us. On the otherhand, however, we all have our moments when we lash out and are not nice and we are only human and everyone can be forgiven for this if forgiveness is sought. No one is perfect and lack of perfection is no reason why people cannot be close anyway.