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Originally Posted by earthmama
Second, his comment about "we'll get you through this divorce" would have bothered me too. Lately, T has said a couple of times "our work is to help you find what you need outside of the room" and it makes me angry every time....like he is saying, this is fine for now, but the goal is to get you OUT of here. Which it IS, of course, and I accept that, and of COURSE I want to get what I need out in the real world (and of COURSE you want to get through your divorce!) but there is something about those statements that...invalidates??...the relationship with T himself.
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Thank you, earthmama for understanding!
When T said that, it made me feel like all I was to him was another divorce to be gotten through and then he could make another check mark in his book (helped 21 clients get divorced in 2008, oh, wait, make that 22, sunny will be finished soon). It made me feel like he thought the sum content of our relationship was the divorce. And it is so much more than that to me. Yes, his comment felt invalidating. But it came with the hug and I know he meant to be supportive. But it still was invalidating. It was all those things at once. Confusion.