Abusers threaten and lie. They don't want us to tell because they don't want to get in trouble for the bad things that they did. That is how they try to protect themselves, but it is not what is best for us to keep those secrets locked up inside us. Yes, I can be a safe person to talk to, but I am too far away to make sure that you are safe, so if you want to talk to me, you have to be in charge of making sure that you are safe. The T is another safe person you can talk to. You are not bad if you talk to the T, no matter what you tell him or her. Then you are helping to heal yourself and the others, instead of protecting the abuser who lied to you and only wanted what he wanted, not what is best for you.