Fuzzy: I have all those faults & could add many more to the list, but I think you & I are taking positive steps forward to correct them. Even by recognizing them is a big step. Try not to be so judgemental about yourself, but just observe: "This is where I happen to be now in my recovery." "These are the steps I am taking to reach my goals." Yes, it is a long process to heal the many wounds & perhaps dysfunctional coping techniques we have adopted, but it is worth it to improve the quality of our lives & our relationships with others.

I, too, get down on myself & sometimes it feels hopeless, especially when I take the proverbially "steps backwards", but I try again to not be judgemental & try to learn something from all my experiences. I don't want these negative traits & didn't choose to be this way, but I am. But I don't have to continue to be. I have a choice now to change many aspects of myself.

Take good care of yourself & that starts with loving & appreciating all your fine qualities & not berating yourself for the ones that are negatively impacting your life, but that you are working on to negate their effects. If you need some help in the appreciation of yourself dept. reread all the previous posts.--Suzy