I have not posted on these forums for a while but I always come to read them from time to time. I am in need of some advice. I am having a terrible time with social events. Like today, my wife is on her way (with her parents) to see her family for Easter Service and dinner. We were suppose to have a quiet dinner with just the four of us. But then suddenly this weekend it changed to driving fours hours and having dinner with about 15-20 people. I did not go. I did not use an excuse but just said I did not feel like going. I am going to our church this morning where we usually go then taking my mother (who would of been alone) out to dinner....so I am thinking what is the difference? I am still going to be AROUND people? Is it because the other people are going to have to cause me to interact more? I don't know. I feel this way at work also. I am a teacher. I do not feel comfortable at social events there either.....weather it is a fieldtrip or a PTA meeting. I usually leave as soon as possible. Infact I have not been to a PTA meeting this year at all. TRIGGER: don't read any further if your not up to it. I was attacked almost four years ago now and since then stalked also. I feel more protected lone than in groups. This does not make sense to me. I would think I would feel better in groups...you know "safety in numbers" but not so. The fact that I am male and 43 (almost 44) makes me feel like such a wimp also. So I guess the question is: what can I do about this? This anxiety of social events is taking its toll on my marriage, my work and family relationships. Is there meds for such things? Anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks so much,
Chalkdust