Well I just had my reply eaten by cyberspace too lol.. Anyways.. Hon, please dont feel guilty for having this time to recoup yourself. You've been thru hell and back the past few weeks. Physically , emotionally and mentally, your exhausted. Why shouldnt you have this time to rest? I think your well deserving of it. I think its fine that your just calling her and checking in. Your not abandoning her , just letting her have her wishes as she can right now. Your being respectful of that in safe ways. There isnt much more you can do than to let her live things out as safely as she wants at this time. You've been a good daughter. She knows this, I think you know it too. I know we all know it here. So please give yourself this break to enjoy.