Hi, CatPin, I read your post with interest but felt your husband may have a bit of a problem that isn't "you"? If you say you'll help someone with their depression and then bow out, pull away and don't even talk to them when they ask, that's not You that is causing that, that's their issues getting in the way. I wouldn't put all the blame on you! Maybe you and your husband should consider a little work together with a therapist, at least through your pregnancy? Practice communication?