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Originally Posted by 02221983
Hello to all, I have been seeing my therapist now for about six months she is great we talk as if we are friends share info about girly stuff and recipes. With that said I am having a serious problems I can’t stop thinking about my therapist I thought talking about my feeling about would help but all she does is blush and all smile and tell how much she likes me and it is a normal feeling but I think it happing too much…I even fined myself having conversation with her in my mind.. I don’t know what to do. At my last session I told her I want to see a different therapist because I need to talk about my issues’ and I can’t talk to her because I fear she will not like me any more because some of the things may sound too crazy. She also say that it will happen again with the new therapist so we should just work it out..HELP HELP what should I do. I really like her as a person nothing more. And I want to keep it that way so maybe later on we can exchange contact info. 
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In your post I noticed both therapeutic and non-therapeutic aspects of your relationship with the therapist. While I do not think that thinking a lot about her, especially as now you may be getting into a deeper layer of therapy wrong - I think thats quite natural, because the therapist tends to start to occupy those parts of our sub-conscious relationships which are not resolved. So she will mean a lot to you, especially in a subconscious context, due to which you will be able to bring your pathologies on to her, which she can help you resolve. In fact your mental dialogue with her will change into your own inner voice which will grow much stronger over this course. Soon you will be able to use this voice to guide your actions, regardless if she is there or not. Which I think is an efficient goal for the therapy. In fact If she had no impact on you, that would be disturbing and possibly superficial. You not being able to talk about issues because you think she will judge you negatively is an issue you must resolve with her, because it will come up, which ever therapist that you see.
However, I am bit uncomf about when you said girlie things?? You are not supposed to know her as a person, that will hamper your therapeutic growth. If she is an efficient therapist, she will take care, but if you notice a lot of her personality come through instead of objective interpretation of your issues, that would be wrong.
Are you on the couch and/or do you get to see her during your session? If she is out of view, she will come across less as a person and more as a voice who can help you.
Take care and carry on