You aren't that far off--a huge part of healing is positive thoughts. Not ignoring the problem and covering it up with Pollyanna fake cheerfulness, but being positive (and being positive you'll have a crappy day does not count! I've tried that). Even though on the inside at first we'll still feel bad, if we believe that we will be ok and work toward that, I think it's a valueable and important first step. And chocolate helps, too. Hang in there, you are doing great!