Hi Candika,

From my experience and the stuff I have read there is a stage at the beginning where everything seems to get better (like a honeymoon period) then the work gets harder and you go deeper in and yes, you spiral downwards for a while before you start coming back up and it takes a different amount of time for each person.

It sounds like you have a supprotive therapist if you are drawn to them then its a good sign and means there's trust there. You do need to build some transference and work through it with them so that you can eventually use the learning in relationships outside of therapy. The important thing is that you feel you are making progress - even a little at a time - and not getting stuck in the same place for months and months at a time.

As long as you are always moving forward it should start to get better eventually, but it just might take a little time.

Hope this helps.

BTC