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multipixie9 · 10:46 PM

rhombus,

you do belong here and what he did was wrong, it was abuse.

just to help people understand it is often spoken of as overt or covert abuse.

Rape is an overt - blatantly obvious - form of sexual abuse.
Being touched, fondled, stroked, etc are covert - SNEAKY - ways people abuse someone.

you said that what he did changed you, it shows his actions affected you negatively. he did something bad to you and you still feel bad things because of it.

it is human to have thoughts, feelings and even daydreams about this - it is a way your mind seeks to help you figure out the situation and how to go forth from here.

if he did this to you, he probably does it to other girls. he is behaving like a sexual predator, a sneaky one.

if you were my daughter i would WANT you to come to me and let me help you deal with this experience. do you have someone you trust that you could tell about this? if this guy is in the youth group of your church and doing this ON sponsored church activities the church needs to know it. he may do something to another girl and even move on to more dangerous actions of abuse against other girls.

telling on him is not being a "tattle-tale" when his actions are truly illegal and harmful. it will also give you a bit of your dignity back.

put the blame on him for doing this to you, you DID NOT ask for it in any way, it is not your fault. i am sorry this bad thing happened to you and i hope you will get some help to sort this out and become free from its harmful effects on your life and views of yourself. (your figure had NO part in causing this, this guy is a perp/perv)

With Concern,

leslie

ps: the next time someone touches you wrongly LOUDLY say, GET YOUR HANDS OFF ME!!! OR STOP THAT/LEAVE ME ALONE DONT TOUCH ME!!! this evil guy counted on your embarrassment to keep you quiet. he did this right beside your own mom, that is so rotten it makes me want to slap his face!