Septmorn.......i realize that you're very protective of "your own" and that is a fine trait. however, standing up for oneself is another way to develop self-esteem.and i do understand that we have some fragile people here, but don't you think that it's helpful for them to learn to cope with different opinions and different feedback? plus, i'd hate for someone with low self-esteem come over here to this forum and be afraid to post because we're all fighting. i hope this forum will be very welcoming and open and warm so that people with different degrees of self-esteem will come here and share and get acquainted with others who are experiencing the same things. i'm really appreciative that we have this place.......xoxox pat