(((Pink)))
Not that anything I can say can help grief, but reading your post made me think of something I am studying in grad school...
You wrote "I did all of this because when I was standing in the street after my car was taken away, I thought of my dad. He was the most practical and logical person that I ever knew. He would always tell me that if you stand there crying, the problem isn't going to get solved. He would tell me that it is okay to be upset, but you have stop, think, and take the steps to solve the problem. "

So I am studying Servant Leadership and this is basically what happens in that; there is a leader that isn't really known specifically as The Leader, but when they are gone (and they always go - that is the nature of it) they leave a HUGE unfillable hole -- that is, until we fill that hole ourselves by drawing on the resources they taught us. in that way, we then find them again. We find that they are within us.

Thinking of you, Pink.
Kiya